• Parenting issue of the month

Who's in control any way...
by Parenting Mentor, Martha Wertz

When your son or daughter is yelling 'No' at you when you ask them to do
something and slams a door to make sure you've heard them ... you know
they're only communicating what's on the surface. These are steps you could
take with your indigo kids to eliminate a power struggle while building healthy,
more trusting relationships.

1. After scanning what is going on, take a BREATH and do your best
to assess the situation without judgment.

2. While moving your self or others out of harms way whenever necessary,
speak or feel peace and love by repeating these words or spelling them out loud.
When you FEEL centered and the situation has calmed down -that's the time
to discuss the issue with your kids.

3. During discussion time, do your best to remember that every incident is
a LEARNING moment. When centered ( you may need to take a time out your
self to get there (see tools along the way as a resource), ask what happened
and how it made your child feel. Become aware of your level of acceptance of your child's feelings and your own.

4. Reach an agreement on how you would all like to see things look in the future.
Ex 1: "When you clean your room for your weekly allowance, that means the bed
is made and your things are picked up off the floor and put away." Being specific
about what your needs look like can help a child get clear as to what you expect
of them. If the child volunteers what they can do and it's different from your
scenerio yet acceptable within your house guidelines, you've got a win/win.

Ex 2: If your child says "I just won't do anyting around here to help"
align yourself with what are suitable consequences - such as no allowance or trips
to the mall until the room is picked up or until a mutual cooperative agreement is
worked out rather than fighting for power, control or respect.

Be mindful that indigos have an inherent need for Truth and
Fairness. Reward them for sharing what's true for them with a hug,
time chatting, playing games or listening to music together.

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Special Note to Moms
from Wellness Intuitive, Tcha LaPlaca

As mothers, it's helpful to become aware of and heal the limiting beliefs and
patterns that get in the way of caring for our selves...especially today as we juggle balancing work, play and being a parent.

As indigos, there are lots of heavenly resources available, if we remember
to ask, that enjoy helping us 'cut thru the mustard' as we move forward in our
evolutionary growth. To assist us in coming back into balance when we're
over doing it, scroll down to Heavenly Tips by Martha Wertz,
Doreen Virtue Certified Angelic Practitioner.

What's essential to remember is that you're a person deserving support.
Become aware of when you internally listen to the cultural archetype known as the martyr, who energetically seduces you 'to just take what's being dished out' or the inner judge who repetitiously scolds you for 'not being perfect'. Instead, choose to love your self in moments it feels overwhelming, (it's a great fear dismantler). Nutritional supplements that raise your vibration and fortify your immune system like VIBE taken on a daily basis also strengthens your resolve to take good care of you as you care for others. Ask for guidance and support from your Higher Self. For steps to letting go of the inner critic, click on resourcing indigos.

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If Mom's happy, Everyone's happy!
Heavenly Tips from our resident Indigo Gardner, Martha Wertz

As an indigo mom to seven children and former public school teacher for 25 years, Martha shares 'resources from above and below' you can access during seemingly out-of-control moments with your kids.

Angelic Suggestion: Calling upon angels and archangels is easy
and supportive when you choose to believe in yourself and them.
Doreen Virtue's Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards open the door to
this kingdom of grace and ease.

Mother Mary is WONDERFUL during stressful times with children.
She is a guardian of Mothers and children and can help you work
through the situation with wisdom, compassion and love.

Archangel Metatron is also helpful to travel with and guide your indigo
child as they learn the ways of this world. Call on them often to be with
YOU and your child.

Power Animal Suggestion: Each animal offers a unique power,
gift or message that assists us on the earth if we call upon it with 
reverence and gratitude.  The book, ANIMAL-SPEAK, The 
Spiritual & Magical Powers of Creators Great & Small, offers much
 insight into animal wisdom.

In regards to parenting your children I recommend calling on the
Hawk, the messenger. Hawk helps you to see the issue more clearly, 
from a Higher Perspective, and offer you what the message or lesson
is in the situation. Hawk also helps you know what to say while 
conversing  with your child.

Aromatherapy Suggestion: Pure Essential Oils are life-enhancing
gifts from the plant kingdom that deliver positive benefits to the body,
mind and spirit through smell, direct absorption into the skin, and by 
digesting them. Antiseptic, calming, stimulating, soothing, essential oils
assisting bringing balance to all systems of the body.

Breathe in PEACE & CALMING for yourself to regain center to deal 
with this challenging issue.  Also benefits the child or yourself by
placing it on the back of the neck to calm the fight or flight response. 
A tree oil, such as Cedarwood or Balsam Fir is also very beneficial for
grounding and standing in one's wisdom.

Martha Wertz experiences financial freedom as a corporate trainer and
distributor for Young Living Essential Oils.  Visit Spirit Scents for
insight into YLO Therapeutic Oils, or email Martha at  IndigoGardner 
to ask about her Emotional Release classes or Angelic Readings.

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